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How To Find A Good Christian Wife, And Keep Her! |
Chapter 3: Rejection
The rewards go to the risk takers, accept the
risk of rejection and begin reaping the rewards today!!!
Proverbs 27:5 NIV better is open rebuke than hidden love. Even the bible says its better to face rejection than to go through life pining away after someone who doesn’t want or need you. And, if you don’t express your feelings in an open and outright manner how will you ever know what might have happened? Like the poem states, sadder words were never penned, than oh, what might have been. It’s better to get things out in the open and if rejection occurs move on to something else. Who knows, maybe she will treat you so badly you won’t even like her anymore. At any rate, why waste any more precious seconds of your life span chasing after someone who has no interest in you at the moment. Of the six billion people in the world more than 3 billion are women. There is one for every man and plenty to spare because women live longer than men. So don’t despair, get your fair share. Not really, just one will do. It just happened to rhyme. Women are more likely to reject men because they are nervous, clumsy, boring or stupid, rather than because of looks. The most attractive features a human being can possess are confidence and strength of personality. You must begin to see rejection as part of the process. In the same way a vacuum cleaner salesman knew that for every nine doors slammed in his face, he would make one sale, take Every rejection to mean that you are rapidly closing in on success. So don’t take it personally. Just remember, every “no” brings you that much closer to a “yes.” Failure is just a rest area on the highway to success. Let me give you some biblical encouragment concerning rejection. We are in the end times, the latter days, as they are called in the bible. If you don't believe it read " Countdown to 6000 ," and you should be convinced. According to the bible, in the end times there will be a shortage of men. There will be such a lack of manpower that seven women will want to marry one man just so they can say that they have a husband. They will even volunteer to support themselves. (Isa 4:1 NCV) At that time seven women will grab one man and say, "We will eat our own bread and make our own clothes, but please marry us! Please, take away our shame." Since this is what's going to happen you shouldn't have any problem just finding just one whom you will support. And remember, you are doing your lady of choice a favor by marrying her now. Otherwise she might have to be in one of those groups of seven women who are begging to marry one man. You are saving her from a horrible fate, so rejoice men! You are doing a great service to a woman by being available to go out on a date with her, with the possibility of romance and marriage in the future if she treats you right. If she is a wise bible believing Christian lady, she should surely appreciate it. Slaying The Dragon For A Wife
You may have to take some risks to find your soulmate. This is common in the bible, in folklore, in movies, in video games, and in real life. The risk you take however may just be getting up the nerve to speak to the woman you desire, nothing so dangerous capturing an enemy city, facing Goliath with a slingshot or defeating a fire breathing dragon with an enchanted sword. Josh 15:16-17 NIV And Caleb said, "I will give my daughter Acsah in marriage to the man who attacks and captures Kiriath Sepher." Othniel son of Kenaz, Caleb's brother, took it; so Caleb gave his daughter Acsah to him in marriage. 1 Sam 17:3-10 the Philistines occupied one hill and the Israelites another, with the valley between them. A champion named Goliath, who was from Gath, came out of the Philistine camp. He was over nine feet tall. He had a bronze helmet on his head and wore a coat of scale armor of bronze weighing five thousand shekels ; on his legs he wore bronze greaves, and a bronze javelin was slung on his back. His spear shaft was like a weaver's rod, and its iron point weighed six hundred shekels. His shield bearer went ahead of him. Goliath stood and shouted to the ranks of Israel, "why do you come out and line up for battle? Am I not a philistine, and are you not the servants of Saul? Choose a man and have him come down to me. If he is able to fight and kill me, we will become your subjects; but if I overcome him and kill him, you will become our subjects and serve us." Then the Philistine said, "this day I defy the ranks of Israel! Give me a man and let us fight each other." On hearing the Philistine's words, Saul and all the Israelites were dismayed and terrified. 1 Sam 17:24-27 when the Israelites saw the man, they all ran from him in great fear. Now the Israelites had been saying, "do you see how this man keeps coming out? He comes out to defy Israel. The king will give great wealth to the man who kills him. He will also give him his daughter in marriage and will exempt his father's family from taxes in Israel." David asked the men standing near him, "what will be done for the man who kills this Philistine and removes this disgrace from Israel? Who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?" They repeated to him what they had been saying and told him, "this is what will be done for the man who kills him." 1 Sam 17:32-37 David said to Saul, "let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him." Saul replied, "you are not able to go out against this philistine and fight him; you are only a boy, and he has been a fighting man from his youth." But David said to Saul, "your servant has been keeping his father's sheep. When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock, I went after it, struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and killed it. Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. The Lord who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine." Saul said to David, "go, and the Lord be with you." 1 Sam 17:38-54 then Saul dressed David in his own tunic. He put a coat of armor on him and a bronze helmet on his head. David fastened on his sword over the tunic and tried walking around, because he was not used to them. "I cannot go in these," he said to Saul, "because I am not used to them." So he took them off. Then he took his staff in his hand, chose five smooth stones from the stream, put them in the pouch of his shepherd's bag and, with his sling in his hand, approached the philistine. Meanwhile, the Philistine, with his shield bearer in front of him, kept coming closer to David. He looked David over and saw that he was only a boy, ruddy and handsome, and he despised him. He said to David, "am I a dog, that you come at me with sticks?" And the Philistine cursed David by his Gods. "come here," he said, "and I’ll give your flesh to the birds of the air and the beasts of the field!" David said to the Philistine, "you come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. This day the Lord will hand you over to me, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. Today I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds of the air and the beasts of the earth, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel. All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord's, and he will give all of you into our hands." As the Philistine moved closer to attack him, David ran quickly toward the battle line to meet him. Reaching into his bag and taking out a stone, he slung it and struck the philistine on the forehead. The stone sank into his forehead, and he fell facedown on the ground. So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone; without a sword in his hand he struck down the philistine and killed him. David ran and stood over him. He took hold of the Philistine's sword and drew it from the scabbard. After he killed him, he cut off his head with the sword. When the Philistines saw that their hero was dead, they turned and ran. Then the men of Israel and Judah surged forward with a shout and pursued the Philistines to the entrance of Gath and to the gates of Ekron. Their dead were strewn along the shaaraim road to Gath and Ekron. When the Israelites returned from chasing the Philistines, they plundered their camp. David took the Philistine's head and brought it to Jerusalem, and he put the Philistine's weapons in his own tent. 1 Sam 18:17-19 Saul said to David, "here is my older daughter Merab. I will give her to you in marriage; only serve me bravely and fight the battles of the Lord." For Saul said to himself, "I will not raise a hand against him. Let the Philistines do that!" But David said to Saul, "who am I, and what is my family or my father's clan in Israel, that I should become the king's son-in-law?" So when the time came for Merab, Saul’s daughter, to be given to David, she was given in marriage to Adriel of Meholah. 1 Sam 18:20-29 Now Saul’s daughter Michal was in love with David, and when they told Saul about it, he was pleased. "I will give her to him," he thought, "so that she may be a snare to him and so that the hand of the philistines may be against him." So Saul said to David, "now you have a second opportunity to become my son-in-law." Then Saul ordered his attendants: "speak to David privately and say, 'look, the king is pleased with you, and his attendants all like you; now become his son-in-law.'" they repeated these words to David. But David said, "do you think it is a small matter to become the king's son-in-law? I'm only a poor man and little known." When Saul’s servants told him what David had said, Saul replied, "say to David, 'the king wants no other price for the bride than a hundred Philistine foreskins, to take revenge on his enemies.'" Saul’s plan was to have David fall by the hands of the Philistines. When the attendants told David these things, he was pleased to become the king's son-in-law. So before the allotted time elapsed, David and his men went out and killed two hundred Philistines. He brought their foreskins and presented the full number to the king so that he might become the king's son-in-law. Then Saul gave him his daughter Michal in marriage. When Saul realized that the Lord was with David and that his daughter Michal loved David, Saul became still more afraid of him, and he remained his enemy the rest of his days. Some Wisdom
The risks are truly not as great as we imagine, but the rewards are Even greater than we can imagine. Unknown Remember your past mistakes just long enough to profit by them." Unknown "If you refuse to accept anything but the best, you'll get the best. Begin to live as you wish to live." Anonymous "Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him." - Aldous Huxley "The journey of a thousand leagues begins with a single step." Adlai Stevenson "It is what a man thinks of himself that really determines his fate." Henry David Thoreau "We are capable of greater things than we realize." Norman Vincent Peale More Wisdom A wise man knows his limitations and profits by past mistakes. Success is obtained by proceeding from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. There is wisdom in experience. Take action!!! Remember the turtle -- he never makes any progress until he sticks his neck out. God gives Every bird its food, but he does not throw it into the nest. Everyone lives in a box with boundaries that their mind has created for themselves. To change and grow means to expand past the illusory boundaries we have set for ourselves and to move and think and act in new unfamiliar territory. Take action even in the face of fears. Keep your eyes on the reward. Concentrate on the goal, not the problems. If you center your attention on the problems rather than solutions to the problems, you will continue to have problems. Keep your eye on the prize, focus your attention on the goal, not on the obstacles between you and your goal. 1 Cor 9:24 do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Phil 3:14 NIV I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. Keys To Dealing With Rejection.
Force yourself to continue your search for a good woman, even after many rejections. Be confident that you will eventually obtain your desire. Take it step by step, follow the procedures outlined in this book and you will Eventually succeed. Remember, a little anxiety can actually help you help you by making you more alert. It’s like adrenaline to an athlete, if you control it and use it to your advantage. Conquer the fear and don’t be afraid to step back up to the plate Even after a number of strikeouts in a row. When you fear rejection, have anxiety and are worried. Tell yourself that you are going to worry and deal with whatever happens sometime later, but right now you are going to go through with it. A top quarterback can’t afford to get rattled after throwing a couple interceptions in a row, and neither can you. You have the God given power of self control. Take it! Use it! And remember, optimistic people achieve more in life than pessimistic people do. Be optimistic. If you love the Lord, he is on your side. How then can you fail? (Rom 8:31-32 NIV) What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all--how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? (Psa 37:23 KJV) The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way. Chapter 4: > 4. The Art of Conversation |